What started as a passionate romance filled with love and connection has become a passionless roommate arrangement. You fight all the time and, even worse, you fight in circles. You are tired, disconnected, and not sure if you can keep doing this whole marriage thing. You have a hard time remembering when you last made each other laugh. You don’t know if you two have had fun together in a long time. Everything comes with anger, sadness, and pain. You know you want to work it out, but you’re not sure if it is possible. Does this sound like your marriage? If so, it is probably time for marriage counseling.

• Disconnected from each other

• Resentful of your partner

• Frequent criticism

• Arguing about everything: money, kids, sex, in-laws, etc.

• Feeling lonely

• Not understanding what your spouse is thinking or feeling

• Inability to compromise

• Sarcasm and passive aggression

• Having the same argument over and over again

• Defensiveness, criticism, and contempt

• Stonewalling (shutting off, turning away from your partner)

• Quickly becoming angry and overwhelmed in conflicts

• Not having fun together

• Have infrequent and low satisfaction sex

Marriage counseling can help you:

• Address and process past hurts

• Communicate your emotions more effectively

• Get your needs met by your partner

• Fight with less anger and animosity

• Become more securely attached to your partner

• Understand your partner’s backstory and how their childhood impacts the way they are in relationships

• Be more honest and open with each other

At A Shared Heart Counseling, we use a combination of Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy for marriage counseling. What this means is that you get a blend of practical communication skills that you can start using on a daily basis to better understand each other, as well as doing deep emotional work to understand why your relationship is the way it is and how you can change it.

Our Colorado Springs couples counselor is ready to help you re-build your marriage. Start marriage counseling today to re-build your relationship. You can have a more connected and considerate relationship that helps you get your needs met. Start to feel safe and grow your trust in your partner with marriage counseling today!